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Yes, I Ask Permission
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It never fails to make me laugh when vanillas get pissed at me for saying something like, “Oh, let me ask my fiance first before I get [a body modificiation]” or, “I want to, but my fiance said no.” because they can’t comprehend that 1.) I belong to him. I am his property, and he both deserves and likes to know when I’m planning to modify his property and 2.) I have a few mental illnesses that can create manic episodes where I’m not thinking clearly about a modification I want to get.
There are so many options to consider when modifying my body for my pleasure or his. If I “ask permission” first, we can take the time to ensure I’m not rushing into a shitty artist that I’ll regret, screwing us financially because I have no sense of impulse control or even just the consequences of my actions.
What Modifications Need Pre-Approval?
Tattoos. These, obviously, are huge commitments and financial hits for us. Plus, when my favorite artist books are open, there’s a 2-3 month waitlist, but I also have very little impulse control. When I want to get a new tattoo, I’m (usually) down for the next available artist in my favorite shop. My fiance is diligent about helping me plan out a piece that I’ll love for a very, very long time.
Piercings. Another commitment and financial hit. Ears are (usually) pre-approved, but anything more than that needs prior approval to ensure healing won’t fuck up any plans we have (like summertime in general when it’s harder to keep pieces clean due to sweat and chlorine).
Hair cuts over 3 inches in length. The occasional trim is always approved to ensure my hair has the strength required for our favorite activities, but if I want a massive chop, that requires some planning and approval (mostly because he likes long hair on me!)
*Luna’s Tattoo Tip: We always aim for fall and winter tattoos to help ensure the smoothest healing period
Honestly? Rarely. If I want to modify my body for him, he’s usually on board. It’s not so much of “no” as it is “not right now” For example, I have multiple tattoos planned, but we have to go slow on those because of healing and finances. I have a semi-large piece planned that we’re expecting to be around $500. (And when you’re trying to save for a life together, that money could go a long way)
There is a small list of modifications I cannot get (for good reasons) like a septum piercing (my family is reformed Jewish, and they’d murder me for altering my body in a way that’s not easily covered). I can’t get any tattoos that I can’t cover with clothing easily (arms, chest, lower legs, feet, hands, etc.) for professionalism. I have to keep my hair past my shoulders so I can put it up for work (again, professional at its finest), and anything shorter would cause intense curling issues.
Can I Override His Choice?
Yes and no. While I have never had to override his opinion, he is very understanding and open to me talking to him about these things. He'd only truly tell me "no" for a handful of reasons such as we don't have money, I'm asking for something that is in a manic state, or the consequences outweigh the rewards.
So while vanillas get pissed at me for “asking permission”, it comes from a place of ignorance. I’m asking him to help me make a choice that could follow me around for a very long time.
Besides, what else is Daddy for if not helping me make these big choices? ;)
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Posted on : Apr 17, 2022
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Commented on Apr 17, 2022
Thank you so much, Robaus! :)
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Commented on Apr 17, 2022
This is actually really wonderful. You’re a good girl.
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