Frequently Asked Questions

Please can you describe your wife?

Well, in my opinion, as her husband, I personally think that my wife is absolutely gorgeous. She has a very pretty face, and a pretty amazing body. Personally, I have always thought that I have punched slightly over my weight in terms of getting her!

She is about 5‘8“ with medium to long straight brown hair. Like a lot of women, she does colour her hair quite frequently, so her hair does change to be fair.

Her butt is not very big, but I personally think it is an absolutely gorgeous shape, and one of her best features is her boobs – by her own admission – for those who want to know, she is a 32 DD. I am a very lucky man, in that her boobs are actually quite big!

How long have you been married?

As I write this, we have been married for about 15 years.

How did you get into the lifestyle?

This is something that I am asked really often. When we met, I think we were both clear that we were both quite sexual people, so that got things off to a good start. We always had really good sex, but I think both of us, were always attracted to playing outside of our marriage. I think one of the key things is that we were probably quite honest about this early on, and I even remember us talking about it quite a lot before we even got married.

Therefore, I think we kind of both went into our marriage knowing that there was always going to be a bit of fun outside of our traditional marriage. Neither of us has ever been jealous of us wanting to do this, because to be completely honest, we kind of went into a marriage knowing that this would be the set up.

However, about 10 years into our marriage, I was a little more honest with my wife about how much I enjoyed the whole dressing up thing, and how much of a turn on I actually found it when other guys fucked her. The whole situation we are in at the moment, sort of evolved from there. I started this journal, almost as an extension of our fun. We have not played sexually to this level of intensity for very long, but this just happens to be a stage that we are going through that we are really enjoying, and the journal is meant to reflect this.

Do you mind so many other men fucking your wife?

My genuinely honest answer to this question is that I actually find it incredibly exciting part of our sex life. We both went into our relationship knowing that this is what we wanted, and I find other men fucking my wife an incredible turn on. We have agreed that we will always be honest about other people that we have sex with, and she never ever hides any sexual encounters from me, so in that sense, we have complete honesty. The short answer is absolutely not! I absolutely love the fact that she fucks other guys and that so many other guys want to fuck her!

Do you actually enjoy the taste of cum?

Honestly, I don’t really mind the taste, but then again, I don’t really like it as such! The honest response to this question is that I have such a sexual association with swallowing cum, that the taste doesn’t really come into it for me. It’s more about the mental and sexual stimulation of swallowing another man’s come, particularly as part of my wife’s domination and control of me. We both found it incredibly sexually arousing, which is why it works for us!

Do you really dress up every day?

The honest answer at the moment is yes. Firstly, I absolutely love dressing up, and secondly, my gorgeous wife does get a real sexual thrill from choosing my underwear and outfits. Just to be clear, I am not completely “out“, so as you know, for things like work, I only ever wear panties, pantyhose and buttplugs under my trousers. We have a lot of friends that know absolutely nothing about this side of our life, and we are quite selective about who we let know. But, to answer the question, I pretty much do dress up every day. Part of the fun of this, is that my gorgeous wife has thrown away every single pair of male underpants that I actually own!

Do you really fuck and suck your shower dildos every day?

Again, the short answer is yes. My gorgeous wife likes the whole concept of “training“ me, and part of this it’s me fucking and sucking my dildos every day. In her words, she wants me to be able to take a cock up my arse or swallow a cock on command, which is why she keeps me “trained“. We keep the dildos in the shower for pretty obvious reasons!

Does your wife actually abuse and humiliate you?

The short answer is yes. I do want to make it very clear that this is something that I actually encourage and find a hell of a turn on. You have to remember, that I am who I am, and that I know that my wife loves me. Everything happens within the context of knowing that we are going to be together forever, so any abuse or humiliation is actually part of the fun. Strangely, this is something that I actually wish my wife would do more, and she is beginning to understand it better and enjoy it more. I genuinely get off on her abusing and humiliating me while other guys are fucking her.

Something relatively new in this area is her abusing and humiliating me with another woman present. You would’ve seen me mention Louise. We have known Louise for a long time, and I have fucked her a good number of times, but she has become quite an active and willing participant in dominating me and humiliating me. It’s something I really love!

You have mentioned dogging in your blog. Where do you go to do this?

I don’t know how many people in the UK read this blog but for those that do not live in the UK, dogging is a hugely popular sexual activity here. We are quite traditional in the sense that we know of quite a few quiet spots around where we live. These tend to be little country car parks or quiet spot out in the countryside. Some are better than others, but sometimes, couples quite literally have their favourite little spot, and they sometimes arrange to meet guys there for a bit of fun.

I tend not to get involved in the dogging sessions other than to watch and to be there to look after my wife. My wife tends not to fuck other guys when we go dogging, although a number of guys certainly have over the years. Nine times out of ten, she likes guys to play with her tits and her pussy, and she likes to suck guys off and get them to come on her.

As lockdown is lifted in the UK, and as we approach summer, we will definitely be going dogging, so I will be putting up a lot more detail about our dogging adventures on the blog.

Why does your wife not share pictures?

Although we are financially very comfortable, my wife does still work part time, and due to the nature of her role, there is absolutely and utterly no way we could risk her ever being identified. We do have some work colleagues who either know a little bit about our lifestyle or have the suspicions, and we as a couple have decided that pictures are too great a risk. Also, for us, it is about the actual physical experience as opposed to recording it. We have total respect for people and couples that do like to take and share pictures, but for us personally, that is not what it is really about. For us, it is about the actual experience itself!

Where can I find your wife’s online profile?

This is something that we asked really often, and we are genuinely sorry, but we do not share it in this blog. The site is called fabswingers.com, but we do not share actual profile. The reason for this guys, is that even just being on the site, because my gorgeous wife is quite active, as you can imagine, she gets more messages than she can possibly handle, and sharing her profile more widely, would honestly just mean that she gets even more messages than she could possibly handle, that she wouldn’t be able to respond to. So, please don’t interpret this as being arrogant or cynical, but we don’t share her profile on such a public forum.

How do you find the time for all of this?

Strangely, this is another question that we are asked quite often. You need to remember that although we share quite a lot of detail on our blog, we do fit in the naughty play in amongst what is otherwise a normal life. Remember, that I do have a job, and I do obviously have commitments as any other normal person would. What we share on our blog – even though it is a bit of a lifestyle – is what we do in our spare time. I would say that we are very highly sexual people, but we are also ordinary people with ordinary lives in many regards as well!

How many pairs of stockings and pantyhose does your wife own?

My gorgeous wife and I laughed when we saw this question because she is always teasing me about the fact that I actually own more pairs of stockings and pantyhose than she does!

It may sound quite funny, but because of her being such a filthy slut! :-), a lot of her pantyhose and stockings get damaged. That, to answer the question, she normally has about 20 or 30 pairs of pantyhose and about 10 or 15 pairs of stockings on the go at any one time.

Can you send me a pair of your wife’s pantyhose?

Honestly, we really wouldn’t mind doing this, but to be brutally honest, it’s more about the hassle of having to post them off. Over the years, my gorgeous wife has been asked for her panties or pantyhose quite often, and sometimes, she has basically let guys keep them after she’s fucked them. I’m certainly not judging, but it’s amazing how many men like to keep her panties or pantyhose as a bit of a souvenir of having fucked her!

If any of you guys are very genuinely interested in owning a pair of her pantyhose, as long as you are in the UK, send us your postal address, and we will consider sending a pair to you. Please can we be clear that this is not a commitment – we will only do this very occasionally if we think it’s fun! Please obviously know that if we do send any, they will likely be a damaged pair! At least you will know they have had a good life! :-)

Where do you live?

We live in one of the counties just north of London in the United Kingdom.

I really hope this has answered some of the questions that we have received over the past couple of weeks. Sorry I haven’t got back to people directly, but I thought this would be a nice way to address some of the questions that people would find interesting. If you do have any more questions, it has actually been quite fun answering them so do feel free to send them along! My gorgeous wife and I really do hope that you continue to enjoy the blog!