I will also be posting this in the Forum 'Pit Of Fire'

 

 The following might shatter some illusions, sorry about that but this is the real world that I'll be speaking about.

 Contrary to fantasy-fiction works, an ABDL relationship means Love, Care, Support on emotional/psychological levels as well as taking over a lot of responsibilities that are either abdicated or no longer manageable for the Aby.

 I'm aware of the 'cruel mommy' thing, and that's fine for fiction-fantasy, and to an extent it's fine for reality as I would imagine some people base their ABDL relationships on such.

 I come from the approach of Loving but reasonably-strict as that's what hubby needs. With that said, I do not need to be strict nor a disciplinarian often. Yes hubby makes mistakes and such but rarely is he a 'brat'. However there are times when he 'tests' me and my resolve which I suspect strongly is a means of seeking Reassurance that I still love and care about/for him.

 Such times are actually fun for us both, I must say. :-D

 Depending on how deeply a relationship goes into ABDL, it can VERY much be like looking after a toddler, seriously-speaking. Yes, it can be somewhat exhausting, but that's what nap-times are for...so Mommy-Wife can have a chance to take a breath and recharge.

 Some people Regress as easily as falling off a cliff...some, like hubby need time to adjust and it's a prolonged changeover, but it does progress bit-by-bit as they feel more and more secure in the relationship and their Parental.

 

 Caring for an Aby--again depending on how deeply into the fetish things have gone--can require caring for them the same ways you would a genuine toddler. Bathing them, paying attention to their diet, scheduling checkups, ensuring they get and take whatever medications are prescribed for them, checking and changing diapers, watching to make sure they are not doing something they should not be, etc, etc..

 Breastfeeding is a committment, and it can take a while for an Aby to re-learn and re-awaken the suckling-reflex. Like with genuine toddlers and babies it's best to keep them to a schedule to ensure that they stay hydrated, don't get hungry and maybe engage in trying to get into snackfoods they don't have permission for, and it also helps strongly promote Bonding. If you plan to breastfeed your Aby, remember that it will require some re-structuring of your life and wardrobe. 

 

 Going out with an Aby, you have to remember that they will feel self-conscious and need to stay close. They want and need that sense of reasurance and protection. For an Aby, the world can be a pretty scary place and even the most discreet diapers feel like they're 'Billboard-Obvious' to the Aby wearing them. Diaper-shirts which have snap-fastening cratches are great, they keep the Aby's diaper from sagging as they walk and such, which makes them more comfortable and less worried. 

 With hubby, I prefer protection vs discretion so when we're out he wears things like sweatpants that afford some concealabity even for the heavy diapers I keep him in. 

 Mobility for an Aby can be an issue...diaper, possible booster pads, and diaper-cover-pants of even flannel let alone terrycloth all create bulk and impose a 'waddle' and slows them down. You must always keep that in mind and it can be tiring for them also, thus it's best to slow your pace for their benefit.

 One benefit to the pandemic and masks is an Aby can have their soother in place when out to aid in coping vs self-consciousness/anxiety and no one's the wiser.

 It also nicely eliminates back-talk and sass-mouth when out. :-D