That particular disclaimer is directed, for the most part, at swinger couples in the U.S. who involved in the "Lifestyle." Modesty aside,, we are an attractive couple and used to enjoy a very successful Lifestyle experience. The variety seems nice, but the endless repetition of new partners for what is usually just a swap of partners for purely vanilla sex is not fulfilling.

Typically, you follow the formula of the women playing to put on a show, then swap partners for at least oral sex. This thrilled me for several years with a previous girlfriend. That's how I met my wife, actually. So against this years-long backdrop of full swap sex parties, keep in mind that we're very sexually jaded people.

My wife and I are both sexually Dominant people who love BDSM in general, but for her it's a prerequisite. The full trappings of BDSM aren't so critical to me, but sexually a cordial Dominant/submissive interaction minimally required for us to be at all interested.

Of the two of us,, Mrs. HotDCcouple is the bigger freak sexually. She can't stand to even watch porn without BDSM elements. And certain specifics, like medical fetish or pony play experiences, are incredibly arousing to her. I could go on at length about her specifics, but she's a very private person and more info would be a violation of trust.

But they always ask, so I will say this. Yes, she'd be interested in playing with a submissive single guy, but it can't be the typical submissive acting twink girly man. That's not her style. She tends to prefer masculine, strong, virile men who are only submissive behind closed doors. Yes, she has a type, but I've seen her deviate from this and get huge crushes on men who don't fit that profile at all. She only plays with local guys, as a rule. And it's SO rare that she's interested in anyone. (You're a lucky man if my wife does get a crush on you. You won't get the best sex you've ever had. You'll get the best sex you'll ever have! For alone time, you'd need me to like and trust you too.)

For me, it's anal sex. I call it my main fetish, but it's something of an obsession. What sex act is more definitively submissive and intimate than surrendering your ass for a man to enjoy for his sexual pleasure? It's not only submissive, but widely regarded in most cultures as demeaning and even degrading to the recipient. Guys never admit this to women, but this is why it's SO hot to us on an animal level. We can still respect and admire women.on a cerebral level. (We're human; it's complicated!!)

What I actually get off on is turning this sexually degrading act into an intimate, pleasurable and sexually satisfying act that woman love and are eager to repeat.

(I keep trying to convince my wife that we should provide seminars on these techniques that are my life's work. She won't, despite the obvious market. With a lovely female assistant endorsing my methods and talking frankly and publicly about her enjoyment of getting assfucked, I would have a huge audience transfixed. Without that? Yeah, not so much.)

I understand my wife insisting that porn showcase her kinks. If porn doesn't feature at least a segment of a woman with a cock in her ass, I actually get angry over having my time wasted. (Look at that woman's perfect ass! What's wrong with you people? How can you ignore that? You call yourselves porn stars?!) I can teach any woman's body to enjoy and actually desire anal sex with me. They invariably look forward to repeat experiences. But when she or her husband aren't even open to her experimenting? No thanks. That doesn't mean I have to have anal sex. But I like to spend all night Friday or Saturday having sex. For every four hours spent in bed, at least an hour should be purely anal!

We've had some fun swinging. One of our first experiences as a couple was the hottest. We took a hot couple (they were fuckbuddies, actually) home from a swingers club. Over the course of the night, each of the men had anal sex with the other woman and we DPed each woman for their first time. A very hot night, and one I'd never get bored with.

My wife and I tend to prefer threeways over playing with couples because it's a more comfortable group dynamic. But a submissive couple could be a really hot experience for us. One I could see us enjoying for a long time.

TLDR: We're really too much into BDSM and D/s to sexually enjoy the fairly vanilla swinger culture. And most of them recoil in horror at our basic suggestions. Variety is nice, but if a woman or couple isn't submssive? My wife is usually more attractive and has a lot more to offer.

Thanks for reading folks. We hope you enjoy our profile, pictures and adventures, and that you find them both inspirational and erotic. We hope everyone finds or at least gets to see what they're looking for and rarely judge others" kinks. We find most sexual deviation fascinating, whether we share it or not.