Hello there you lovely lot,

I haven’t posted a blog entry for a while, mainly because I couldn’t think of anything to say that you might be interested in! Then it hit me that, whilst my opinions on different things might not be of interest, there is advice I can give to other crossdressers that may help towards achieving a more feminine result when dressing.  Most CDs / TVs have never been able to go to a female relative or friend for advice on makeup application, clothing styles, shoes, etc. so, I am going to share some of the things I have learned over many years that might be helpful.  Younger CDs out there can think of me as their big sis or auntie LOL 😊 

As this is such a HUGE subject, I am going to break things down into different sections that will include my own advice, as well as links to videos online that give practical demonstrations of the things I ramble on about.

Firstly, and perhaps most obviously, let’s talk about clothes and which ones will / won’t work…

OUTER CLOTHES

I see so many pictures online of CDs wearing outfits that are either way too tight or too baggy so my first and most obvious piece of advice is buy clothes that fit! We’d all love to be a perfect little size 12 but nature has seen fit to give men broader shoulders, more muscle development and, after a certain age, a bit of a paunch in the middle (unless you can get to the gym or work out regularly).

With the advent of online shopping and the ability to collect a parcel at a pickup point, the embarrassment factor of going into a shop and buying an item is a thing of the past, so you actually have the luxury of being able to order an item, pick it up, take it somewhere discreet to try on and then return it if it’s not right.  It may take a couple of tries to find the right sizes for your body but at least you won’t be throwing good money away.  I usually find that Asos, Very, Debenhams and Bon Prix run pretty true to size on most occasions.

In terms of sizing, it’s actually fairly straightforward to work out what will and won’t fit you (all the size references are UK specific as that it where I am from).  Bear in mind that very often women’s clothing will give bust, waist and hips measurements but most of the time you won’t have to worry about the last one.

Let’s take tops as an example; if you have a 42 inch chest, a size 18 top should fit nicely.  Remember, you’re not a perfect little size 10 or 12 (unless you’re lucky enough to be that slender) so, even though an 18 sounds like something only a fat chick would wear, it will look good on you.  With skirts, a 34 inch waist will generally equate to a size 14 with a zip fastening or, if you like your skirts really tight, you might get away with a 12 with an elasticated waist.  The important thing is to know your own measurements and consult the size guide on the site you are using.

Once you have sussed out which sizes from which retailer work for you, it’s then really important to think about what type of silhouette you want to achieve and if it’s even realistic. 

What do I mean by that and why is it important? One of the things I first notice about a bio woman is how well her clothes fit and which parts of her body she has chosen to accent.  It could be her legs, her waist, her bust, etc.  This is where a little self-awareness can save you a lot of disappointment and frustration.  For example, you’ve bought a strappy lycra bodycon dress from your favourite website and, whilst it feels amazing to wear, you just look like a big strapping bloke in a tight dress.  Great if you have a lycra fetish, bad if you wanted to look like a convincing woman.  This doesn’t just apply to CDs by the way, as the below image shows:

All I notice in this pic is rolls of fat and a dress that is way too tight for the model.  She probably thinks everyone is looking at her mams, but we know different.  If I had been dressing the model, I would have gone with a similar tight top half, but maybe twinned it with a pair of leather jeans and a nice belt.  The great thing is that you can hide the bits of your body that don’t conform to the image you want to present by using jackets, shrugs, scarfs and other accessories.

In general, CDs want to aim for some version of the classic hourglass shape but, as we don’t have hips, we can use clothing to achieve something close.  If you have looked at my ‘Just Outfits’ galleries, you will notice that I favour a classic style blouse with a tight skirt (long or short) with a wide belt to cinch things in the middle.  I do on occasion use a ‘MissBelt’ (see link below) or, if I am feeling sexy, go for a full corset.

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/283477929034

If you do have a little bit of a paunch, a tucked blouse can disguise that quite effectively or you could leave the top untucked and wear it with a slinky skirt.  

The last bit of advice I can give on the subject of outer clothes is to really look at what women wear and how they wear it.  I realise some CDs that class themselves as ‘sissies’ want to achieve a hyper feminised, slutty look but this is missing the mark if your aim is to be passable in public because the vast majority of bio women don’t look like that.  I guarantee that nearly every woman is disguising something she doesn’t like about her appearance so it can be quite interesting to see how they use clothes to present the best outward version of themselves.

UNDERWEAR AND HOSIERY

Even after nearly four decades of dressing, I still feel my heart rate go up when I put a bra on.  I can’t explain it exactly but it’s like the defining underwear item that is traditionally only worn by bio women.  Of course, you have to work out sizing first and that is a whole other matter!

I talked earlier about chest size and corresponding clothing size and bras don’t differ too much but you have to remember that the bust measurement and the cup size are two completely different things (sorry if this is stating the obvious).  A 38A will be the same size around as a 38C, so decide in advance what kind of boob size looks right for your silhouette (there’s that term again).  One tip about bras is that, if the larger sizes are horrible, you can probably go down a couple of inches as they are very stretchy!

In my own opinion, going too big can look ridiculous, just as it does on bio girls that have too many boob jobs.  They start to look unnatural, which is the opposite of what a committed CD is trying to achieve. 

Undies for your bottom half are a bit more straightforward as they will generally be the same size as your skirt (i.e. a 14 but you might get away with a 12).  You may take a few attempts to get the right style for you depending on whether you tuck fully or not.  If you don’t tuck, you’ll want something that prevents your member from escaping every two seconds but hey, that might be what you like haha 😊

Hosiery, like bras, is something that always gets me excited when I dress.  I love the feeling of stockings and tights against my skin and how it feels when you run your own hand along your stockinged leg… anyway, I digress!

Whether you go with stockings or tights (pantyhose for our American friends) is entirely down to personal preference but it is good to have both to hand depending on the outfit you are wearing.  The biggest piece of advice I can give is in relation to what type to buy.  Many closeted CDs (who can’t shave their legs because they don’t want to arouse suspicion) post pics of themselves wearing sheer hosiery where you can clearly see leg hair and that is a massive turn off (sorry to be direct).  I know it feels great but, come on – would you want to shag a woman that had Chewbacca’s legs?

The thing to remember with most nylon hosiery is that it has a denier rating on the packaging.  The lower the number, the finer the nylon will be.  If you go 40 – 60 denier, you will find that this disguises leg hair pretty effectively.  You can also buy really sexy patterned hosiery that almost completely camouflages your hirsute pins.  For really gorgeous hosiery at sensible prices, I usually use Asos.

Next time, Auntie Janie is going to talk makeup so, in the meantime, let me know if you have any feedback or post top tips of your own!

Big hugs,

Janie

 xxx