Well slave's response left an awkward situation.  Having in effect punted and said that how my friend wished to treat her was not her choice, but mine,  was huge statement for my friend and frankly kind of left me in a strange and awkward spot.  I knew that as the Thursday broke up, but it was the next Tuesday when it came to roost.  I had her calling me trying to arrange something for friday night with me and slave.  She was pushing  for a space where she would not be seen as odd for entering.  However she very clear she wanted the chance to see slave tied gagged and tortured.  I found this awkward, because it seemed odd to me that she was so interested and even more so, because I had not good reason to say no, given slave had essentially told her it was my choice, and frankly friend was so aware of all the other shit that happened.  I had no good reason to say no, and frankly slave was not helping.  I raised the question with her as to what she wanted, and she looked awkward and told me it was somehow worse when a woman did shit, but she did not want to influence my decision, and she also said well it might not seem right saying no to an invite with reasonable notice. 

That is, while she acknowledged the fact that she found being abused by a woman more distasteful, it was also clear that she was more concerned about giving her offence than she was being beaten or humiliated by her.  She was also utterly unhelpful in terms of anything else, as I asked about perhaps what we should do, she made it clear it was entirely my call, as was any notion of limits.  I told her point blank that this was a person who actively wanted to cause her pain who thought what happened to her at the party was awesome.  I had never told her - but I had always been a little uncomfortable with the fact that the nipple clamps had been put on twice, or that I had allowed that gag to stay in so long, well her next comment was an education for me, she had one request for me- if it was going to get really heavy duty could she please be gagged because she told me that at the party that she probably would have been begging for mercy and that would have been really bad for the party and inappropriate according to her, it came out that she was actually proud of the fact that she was obedient and servile enough that the woman had felt comfortable putting them back on afterwards.  It was that being and being seen to be  obedient and servile was so important to her that she was not willing to avoid in effect being tortured.