Well, I unveiled my caged cock for my wife yesterday and she didn't freak out, even if she hasn't wholeheartedly and excitedly jumped into a new role.
We farmed out our teen daughters for the evening so the wife and I could spend some time alone for her birthday. We grilled and ate some nice steaks, then retired to the swing on the back porch as the early evening cooled off.
We started making out fully clothed, much like when we were teenagers (though perhaps without the same level of raw hunger). I felt her up over her clothes as we passionately kissed. I took my time running my eager hands over her clothed body, then sliding under her shirt to feel her nipples harden in my palm as I squeezed her breasts.
I worked her out of her shirt and nursed hungrily on her hard, pink nipples as I started rubbing her crotch with the side of my hand, over the outside of her pants.
Since the back of the swing folds flat, effectively doubling the width of the seat, I folded it down so we could lay down together.
I took my time - at least so much as my building lust would let me - focusing on her reactions and pleasure, knowing that I'd get off easily when it was my turn. I finally got her out of her pants and ran my hands over her legs and ass for several minutes before moving my attention to her trimmed mound. I rubbed lightly over it for a few minutes before working first one, and then two fingers into her now very wet tunnel.
I worked her pussy over with my fingers for several minutes, alternately laying alongside her, sucking her nipples, and sitting up ogling her lovely body while gauging her reactions to my ministrations.
When she finally came on my fingers, I snuggled up beside her, stretched out on the swing. She rolled over to her side in a spoon position with a contented smile on her face.
The smile stayed as I ran my ran my right hand over her legs and ass while kissing her neck and shoulder. When it seemed she was ready for round two, I flipped over, putting my face at her hip level. She pulled one knee up, which gave me perfect access...to her ass, rather than her pussy.
I dove in with gusto, mostly rhythmically working the tip of my tongue as deep as I could, and occasionally just flicking it over her bud. When I needed to come up for air, I worked a finger into her tight chute. As I pumped it in and out, I flicked the tip of my tongue at the junction where my finger entered her ass.
When she came again, I spooned up beside her once more, kissing and licking her neck and shoulder blades.
At this point, she said "you're a little overdressed, aren't you? You got me all undressed."
I answered playfully, "well, you didn't get me undressed yet."
At that point, she told me to get out of my pants. I reached into my pocket and handed her a bead chain with the two small keys to my padlock on it. She looked at them and asked "what's this for?"
More than a bit nervous, I stepped out of my jeans, displaying my caged dick for the first time.
She asked, "did you put a lock on it?" I answered yes as I moved into position over her, straddling her hips.
"Isn't the idea to let it get hard, rather than keep it soft?" she asked.
"Yeah, but I can't play with it this way," I told her.
She unlocked me and massaged my member to hardness quickly, and I slipped it in her steaming pussy.
I worked it in and out slowly, pausing every time I started to get close. After quite a while of leisurely fucking, she executed her trademark move when she's ready for me to come, reaching between us and gently fondling my sack.
"I don't want to come yet," I told her. "I want to eat you again."
"Okay," she answered.
"Your pussy, or your ass?" I asked.
"Mmmm, my pussy," she told me.
I crawled back between her legs and started lapping at her now VERY swollen and wet pussy lips. I thrusted two fingers in her while I sucked on her swollen clit, then added a third. Very quickly, she came to another orgasm - by far the strongest of the evening.
I worked my dick back into her soaking depths and resumed my long, slow stroking. After a couple of minutes, I didn't resist when her hand came in for the kill, and I buried my modest length as deep as I could as I emptied my load into her.
We cuddled until my softening dick finally flopped out of her gripping pussy. I collected the parts of my chastity cage, and she went to hand me the chain with the keys.
"You don't want to lose these," she said as she moved to hand me the keys. "I don't know how much you paid for that thing."
I told her, "Then I guess you should put them someplace where you won't lose them." With that, she carried them off somewhere into the house.
So I managed to unveil my chastity cage without freaking my wife out, and now I'm locked back up securely with no idea where the keys are. To top it off, last night I was finally able to go to bed proudly wearing my cage without having to hide it in underwear or pajamas.
We haven't worked out any ground rules yet, but I'm willing to work into that slowly.