We've been in the lifestyle for several years and met numerous people along the way. I've learned a lot about cuckolding over the years, through experience, sharing and research. Most men are not cut out to be true cuckolds, they are too jealous, insecure, or selfish. But for us women lucky enough to have married a potential cuck, the proper training and encouragement can greatly improve the experience for both you and your cuck.

Firstly, how do you know if your husband has the potential to be a cuckold? Some cucks may be good lovers, others may be inadequate, but they are all very giving lovers, who want more than anything to please their partner. They are selfless lovers. They also tend to want to please you around the house, by doing chores and being helpful. In the bedroom they often enjoy playing with toys and giving oral sex. They don’t fantasize about other partners, they fantasize sexually about you.

Many cuckolding couples start out as swingers, but as they get into the lifestyle the husband is more interested in his wife's experiences than swinging himself. For many husbands, the exchange must be mutual. If she gets to be with another man, then he gets to be with another woman. Or the husband may enjoy having threesomes that include other men, as long as he gets to drive it home as well. If your husband prefers to just watch, he will likely make a good cuckold. Some wives may feel guilty about cuckolding their husbands or think that their husband is losing sexual interest in them. But cucks enjoy the sense that their wives’ sexual appetites are too big for them satisfy.

If you recognize that your husband is open to cuckolding and you want to pursue it, the first thing to do is figure out how far you want to take it. Men who are true cucks will be excited when you deny having sex with them in order to save yourself for your bulls. They enjoy knowing that you get more sexual satisfaction from your bulls than they could provide. Sharing your sexual experiences with them and telling them about how you prefer being with other men instead of them only deepens the emotional connection of a cuck to his queen. An important step can be voicing to your husband that you want to cuckold him and calling him a cuck.

How far you take his cuckolding will depend on you and what you want from your relationship. Technically, any husband who is faithful to a wife that has sex with other men is a cuckold. But many cuckolding relationships go beyond wives that simply have sex with other men. In some cuckolding relationships wives stop having intercourse with their husbands altogether. Others engage in role reversal, where wives have sex with their cucks using a strapon. Sometimes this includes feminizing the husband, but not always. In some relationships the husband is always present to watch his wife in the company of her bulls, while in other cases husbands are never or rarely present to watch. Cuckolding may involve humiliating the husband, but again, not always. Humiliation often involves stressing the sexual inadequacy of the cuck. Many cucks actually take pleasure in accepting this sense of inadequacy as a reason to allow their wives to have sex with other men. Some cucks may even be disappointed if their wives enjoy having sex with them as they like thinking that their wives require other men to be satisfied.

Cucks become increasingly infatuated with their queens as their wives’ relationships with their bulls grow and become more fulfilling. As the cuckolding relationship deepens, the cuck's sexual fulfillment becomes increasingly tied to his wife’s sexual fulfillment with other men. A difficulty that some wives encounter is accepting that the best way to fulfill their husband’s sexual and emotional desires is to deepen their own relationships with their bulls and share their sexual enjoyment with their husbands. Bascially, brag about how great sex with your bulls is to your cuck! Let him know that other men satisfy you in ways that he cannot. Cucks will become content to masturbate, knowing that your sexual desires are fulfilled by your bulls.

But being a cuck isn't all about denial. Cucks want to feel involved in your sexual adventures and satisfaction. Cucks are natural pleasers and want to service you in ways that acknowledge their sexual subordination to your bulls. Making demands of your cuck, especially in front of your bulls, can engender a sense of fulfillment and involvement for your cuck. Examples can be little things like telling your cuck to undress you to help you get ready for your bull, or bigger things like telling your cuck to lick up your bull's cum after sex. Have your cuck help you into sexual positions. Have him hold you while your bull ravages you. Let your cuck know that he enhances your sexual pleasure more as a cuck than he could as a sex partner.

One of the advantages of cuckolding for the wife is that many men prefer to be with the wives of cucks. Some couples in the lifestyle prefer to swing with other couples or women. Some husbands are controlling or very selective. Single women are often looking for attachment. For many men, the wives of cucks offer the perfect sexual opportunity of availability without responsibility. When men know that your husband is a cuck they tend to become more sexually assertive knowing that your husband is less likely to object to their advances. Letting other men know that your husband is a cuck can indicate your increased availability and give them a sense of sexual superiority. Cuckolding  works well for women seeking deeper sexual relationships with men other than their husbands. Many men are very aroused by the idea of being a “bull” for a cuck’s wife and are more likely to invest in a longer-term sexual relationship with a married woman that involves cuckolding. Bulls like to feel that they are the primary sexual provider for another man’s wife.

Some bulls like to assert their sexual dominance over the cucks of women they service, and many cucks want to show submission to their wives and their bulls. Many bulls request that a wife stop having sex with her cuck husband in order to save herself for her bulls. Bulls may also request that a cuck “clean up” his wife after sex. This involves licking up all of the bull’s cum. A cuck may also be asked to taste his wife’s pussy on her bull’s cock or to serve as a fluffer to get her bull ready for her. A bull may want to cum directly in the cuck’s mouth as a way of showing dominance or even to fuck a cuck while his wife watches. But cuckolding need not always be taken to these extremes.

Chastity caging is another way for cucks to show devotion to their wives and subordination to her bulls. Cages prevent the cuck from being able to masturbate or even get an erection. Cages should not be applied for long periods (weeks or more) but can be used to exert more control over your cuck’s sexuality. Some bulls prefer cucks to be caged when they service their wives. And some cucks may benefit from caging as a way to control excessive masturbation. Many cucks start to masturbate much more often as their wives become increasingly active with other men. Caging can help a cuck control their urges. Caging also allows a queen to offer the opportunity for a cuck to masturbate as a reward. Some cucks find it exhilerating to be caged with the prospect rewards for "good behavior", such as being allowed to masturbate after cleaning up a bull's cum.

Ultimately, cuckolding can be extremely rewarding for both wives and their cucks. Cuckolding gives married women the freedom to explore thier sexual desires on their own terms. The wives of cucks have almost complete sexual freedom, along with the security and support of a loving married partner. Having a cuck husband can allow you to explore many sexual experiences that few other women get to enjoy. For those of us fortunate enough to have married a cuckold, getting the most out of our relationships requires open communication and encouraging your husband accept his role as your cuck. Cucks enjoy being with women that are assertive in expressing their sexual interest in other men and pursuing all of their sexual desires. They are eager to please and aroused by the idea of being inadequate to satisfy the sexual appetites of their wives. With proper training and encouragement your cuck will embrace your sexual fulfillment through other partners and develop an even deeper love and devotion for you.