My love for bondage as part of my D/s scenes is described in my previous posts.  So it should be no surprise that I am also a big fan of selfbondage.  I encourage my sub partners to learn and practice selfbondage because it gives us additional opportunities for control, instructions/tasks, and mutual pleasure.

When I cannot be with my sub, I often leave instructions for her to gag and tie herself at a specified time and for a certain length of time.  When that time arrives, I am aroused with the knowledge that, even in my absence, my wonderful sub is following my wishes.  The instructions always include a crotch rope and breast bondage.  Sometimes I am specific about the bondage position.  Other times I leave the choice to my sub and require her to email me afterwards with a detailed description of the position and her experience.  I give directions about use of toys or not and whether she may cum or not.  Selfbondage is also fun when my sub and I are apart and engage in phone sex or cam play.

Selfbondage is an excellent way to begin a D/s scene.  I often tell my sub partner when I will arrive and instruct her to be in selfbondage for a specified period of time beforehand, usually thirty minutes.  I always leave the choice of position up to my sub as long as her mouth, pussy, and ass are readily accessible.  I require her to find ways to pleasure herself while in the selfbondage but deny her permission to orgasm until I am present to give it.

The sight of my precious sub aroused and in bondage as I enter always gets me hard instantly.  Imagine the questions in her mind at that moment.  "Will Sir let me cum or will He tease me further?"  "Which will Sir use first: mouth, pussy, or ass?"  "Will Sir touch me right away or will He sit, relax, and stroke His cock while watching me squirm?"  When I sometimes require my sub to add a blindfold, there is an added element of uncertainty/fear until I speak.

For those who have never tried selfbondage, a common concern is how to release him/herself.  There are many sites and sources of information on that topic.  I forget where I discovered the method I teach to my sub partners and will describe now.

1. Get a short piece of rope, 3-4 feet long.  A bathrobe sash works well.

2. Make a loop about 6 inches in diameter.

3. Complete the loop with a knot that will NOT slip.  A square or granny knot is best.  This is critical because any type of slipknot will tighten beyond control.

4. Put both hands through the loop so that the loop is around the wrists.

5. Twist the right hand/wrist around and around, and the loop will tighten itself.

6. Stop twisting when hands are secure and still comfortable.  Be aware and do not cut off circulation.

7. Release the hands by twisting the right hand in the opposite direction from Step 5, and the loop will loosen.

8. This method works equally well to tie hands in front or behind the back.

I practiced this method on myself before using it with my sub partners.  Because it allows choice of release, it does not provide a sense of complete helplessness that some selfbondagers desire.  I prefer that my subs err on the side of caution.

Do any other Doms use selfbondage with their subs?